Wednesday, November 16, 2011

Defriended!!!

Okay. I know I shouldn't let this bother me, since it's like, *whatever*. But still. Every time one of my friends from high school defriends me (because yes, this has happened before), it kind of feels like high school all over again. The silly thing is, I probably wouldn't have even noticed except I happened to remember this person's birthday was today, but when I went to post a happy b-day comment, their profile was no longer on my list. Wondering if it'd perhaps been taken down for professional reasons or something, I checked a mutual friend's profile, and there it was--still there, but no longer connected to mine!!!

Want to hear the even sillier part? I write edgy teen fiction. With edgy scenes that will probably appeal to quite a few people but that will make others hate me. So I really shouldn't care about stuff like this. I should consider this a warm-up for having my work scrutinized by strangers. Maybe a warm-up for having my work derided by people I know. Anyway, guess it's not enough just to remember angst--I get to experience it all over again, albeit in a smaller dose this time around.

11 comments:

Cat Winters said...

Facebook does indeed bring that old high school angst back to the surface. But tapping into those teenage emotions will help make your writing even stronger! :)

Ara Burklund said...

Ha! I hope so. Easier to channel with a recent incident, I suppose.

Dana Elmendorf said...

Those types of people really tick me off. They want a sneaky peek in your life and then they move on. They were really never your "friend" to begin with but nosey busy bodies with NO LIFE! And you are right, your edgy writing will turn a lot of people off and it will also draw in a whole new world of open minded, intelligent beings.

Ara Burklund said...

Thanks, Dana. Looking forward to meeting the latter!
: )

Charlie Rice said...

I wouldn't sweat the small stuff. It reminds me of high school, when a girl would not be interested. (I know, unbelievable, right?) I had to know why. Now, it doesn't matter to me. We're all so different and as an adult, the reason is necessary.

The last person I defriended was because she posted too much and I got sick of reading that she was on the bus, or too many "please repost if you're human" type posts.

Cat Winters said...

Ha! I love the "please repost if you're human" comment!!

Leslie Rose said...

It's amazing how fast we can snap back into that high school vulnerability zone. I pat my ears and hum when someone slinks away. Happy Thanksgiving.

Ara Burklund said...

Thanks, Charlie. You're absolutely right about not sweating the small stuff. Also, I know what you mean about the high-maintenance facebook friends. After awhile, kind of feels like a threatening chain letter.

Cathy~I know! So true, right?

Thanks, Leslie! You have a wonderful Thanksgiving, too! : )

Adrienne said...

Another reminder why I spend so little time on facebook. :)

Suzanne Casamento said...

I'm with Charlie, don't sweat it. Besides, if someone doesn't want to stay connected to you, there's something wrong with them.

Ara Burklund said...

Thanks, Adrienne! Thanks, Suzanne! Not worth stressing over--better to ignore the drama.